Do you ever look at yourself in the mirror and wonder how you ended up so old, without even realizing it?
It can be a difficult conversation to have with yourself but it is important.
Do you let people dictate how you should spend your time? Or do you feel that the world is out of your control and that you just live every day running from one chaotic crisis to the next?
This is understandable, given the pressures of modern day life. With social media, we can feel as if everybody is online 24/7 judging us for our actions. We can also become obsessed with trying to create the perfect image of ourselves that we think people will like, rather than figuring out what we actually like to do in our spare time.
If this is you, then it’s time for you to learn how to take control of your life.
How to Take Control of Your Life: Make Lists
The key to taking control of your life is organization or simplification. And writing lists is the best way to go about achieving this.
First of all, write yourself a list of all the tasks you hope to complete on that date. Then prioritize them and ensure that you carry out the ones at the top of the list first.
But more importantly, be sure to allocate a certain amount of time to those tasks. It is all too easy to feel as if those tasks are going to dictate our day. If we spend all of our time trying to do the first task then that has a knock-on-effect and we can end up spending longer on the second task until we realize the day has run away with us.
It is also important to only attempt to complete one task at a time. Trying to complete everything all at once can mean you end up half completing everything and you feel as if you have achieved nothing at the end of the day.
It is also ok to say to yourself that a task is too difficult to complete on your own and you need outside help or you will attempt to complete it on a different day when you are in a different mindset.
Spirituality Can Help
Sometimes our lives are too much and feel out of control because we are too absorbed in the modern world. If we live in a big city it is easy to feel as if we are in the rat race.
Spending time away from the city in nature can help us feel alive and connected again.
Doing something spiritual is also a great idea. Yoga can help and reading books on yoga techniques can be a great place to start. Then see if there are any yoga classes near you or even find a quiet space to meditate by yourself can be useful.
The Avatar Course, which can help open your mind to different ideas and beliefs, can also help. Check out this website for more information.
Cut out the People Who Don’t Make You Happy
It’s very easy to go through life making friends with the first people that come along and sticking with them for the rest of your life.
But the truth is friendship is a two-way street and we need to ask ourselves whether a friendship is really helping us achieve what we want to in our lives.
This doesn’t mean we have to dramatically tell people we are ending the friendship or start fights with friends which can make us feel worse.
Instead, pursue your interests and see who you meet. If you enjoy classical music than go to a classical music concert, if you like reading join a book group or if you enjoy blood pumping activity then go skydiving or base jumping with other like-minded people.
Remember that this can also apply to family members as well. If a family member is making your life miserable then try to limit the amount of time you spend with them.
Give Yourself a Break
It’s all too easy to be hard on ourselves and think of ourselves as being not quite perfect. This is especially hard when we feel we face criticism every day and have a stressful job that involves taking negative comments from our boss and from customers.
Instead, try to remind yourself that you are a good person and that it is the other people who are wrong for being critical of you.
Talk to people about your feeling and they will offer reassurance to validate your behavior.
Always be sure to treat yourself on a regular basis as well. This could be as simple as watching the latest episode of Game of Thrones after work or taking a day off from work to have time to yourself to do the things that you love and make you happy.
We Only Have One Life: Live It
The question of how to take control of your life is more straight-forward to answer than you think. It is important to understand what matters in life. Listening to criticism and spending time with so-called friends is not healthy. It can make us feel awful about ourselves.
Instead, spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself and use that energy to treat yourself and feel more positive about your life. After all, you probably have a lot to be grateful for.
Don’t let everyday tasks get on top of you either, be sure to make lists to ensure you know what you need to do each day. But be sure to time each task so that you are not spending all of your time doing chores. Don’t be too harsh on yourself when you cannot achieve them and don’t be afraid to call in your friends for help.
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