A Simple Mantra for Healing Your Dark Night of the Soul

This post is a guest post by Rajiv Parti, MD (aka Dr. Raj) on A Simple Mantra for Healing Your Dark Night of the Soul

Healing form my Dark Night of the Soul was not easy but the three main steps I had to go through were: 1. Forgive 2. Love and 3. Heal.  This mantra Forgive, Love, Heal will help one heal from a dramatic Dark Night of the Soul as mine or even what I call a Mini Dark Night which can happen all the time to us in busy modern life: they could be simple things like being shown the finger in an unloving exchange, or being cut off on the road in traffic!

In my own Dark Night of the Soul I had to deal with prostrate cancer, surgical complications, life threatening sepsis, depression, chronic pain and dependency on pain medications. I had to sell my house, quit my job, all the while feeling how my marriage tethered and my health suffered. I was very angry at myself, at God, the people, at the world ­ at the universe.

My healing happened in three steps.

The First Step is to Forgive

I had to forgive my self for any thing I had done, or contributed to the dark night. Forgive the circumstances. Forgive God and accept God’s will. I had to surrender to the possibility that the Spirit alone has the infinite wisdom. There were the lessons I had to learn in this life time, so that I could evolve.

The forgiveness is defined as:

“The process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.”

To help in forgiveness process I re-discovered the serenity prayer:

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can;and wisdom to know the difference.”

It transformed me. I started to live in present in the Now and not be stuck in what my circumstance once were in past or what I wanted them to be in future.

The Second Step is to Love

The second step was to start to love myself, my life, my circumstances. The beauty is that when I started to love myself, my health improved in leaps. I started eating healthy, going to the gym regularly, meditating and praying regularly. This self love should not mean a narcissistic way of prioritizing the self at the cost of others, for I truly believe one can only love others when one becomes love itself. I started to have gratitude and love re-kindled for the Spirit, the people, the world, the environment; I even changed my car form Hummer to a Camry Hybrid.

Love is defined as:

“A virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection; and the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another and one self.”

As famous Mother Teresa quote comes to mind:

“We all can not do great things but we all can do things with great love. We all can each become a sun of of love radiating love all around.”

So my friends start the ripple effect from the heart, from inside your heart, from your Source.

The Third Step is to Heal

After the first two steps of change within our mind, and within our heart comes the step that addresses change at the level of the soul, our spirit. I have observed in others, and personally experienced that to really heal, there has to be a shift that has to happen at a deep level of our consciousness. Effectively, the consciousness has to not just heal but evolve too.

Healing is defined as:

“to make healthy, whole, restore to health; to rejuvenate ,to free from evil; cleanse; purify”

Looking back I am thankful to the Spirit for the circumstances I had to go through. It has brought love, compassion, Seva (service with gratitude), sharing, and creativity as my guiding principles ­ where as before I lived for cancerous materialism, expensive toys, the satisfaction of myself above all others: it really was all about me: my status.

My Dark Night transformed me to find my true Divine purpose and my Dharma to be a Healer at the Soul level. I wouldn’t be writing this but for going through the heat of that Dark Night. It made me whole.

I learnt to embrace my Dark Shadow. A Gandhi Quote comes to mind:

“Be the change you want to see in the world”

Yesterday only I received a short email from a friend who had seen me last a few years back. It said:

“Hi Raj ­ It was so nice to have you with us last weekend! you have changed a lot since I saw you last in India.”

Another friend said how after five years of knowing that one can see how even how I drive has changed. That is so true.I was always in rush in the fast lane. But now I have what I will call Buddha Driving! I am driving in the middle lane. Somebody cuts me off? So be it…they must be in rush. So my friends ­ my experience is that this approach works. Through the practice of my own prescription for Wellness in the Soul of Wellness, and through the adoption of this mantra: Forgive, Love and Heal. ­

I have managed to reduce my doctor’s orders to take 36 pills every morning to manage my health crisis down to only 5 different pills a day. The truth is that I have gotten myself out of intense pain, managed to free myself from depression, free myself of addiction, and reverse being overweight through this mantra. The quality of my relationships with my beloved wife, my beautiful children, my dear friends and working associates ­is, I can tell you genuinely infused with joy, understanding, love and laughter. If you are living in Brisbane, then consider seeing brisbane cardiologists for health and heart concerns.

My advice is to not just say the mantra, but to practice it ­ to live it: to BE the change it beckons from us.

Rajiv Parti, MD (aka Dr. Raj) is a world leading specialist in pain management with over 30 years practicing clinical experience. He was the Chief of Anesthesiology at Bakersfield Heart Hospital where he specialized in cardiac anesthesia for 15 years. Dr. Raj founded the Pain Management Institute of California, and under his direction it has served thousands of patients for acute and chronic pain relief. He now specializes in promoting spiritual wellness and personal growth with various non-traditional healing modalities. His new book The Soul of Wellness is being released by Select Books in October 2012. www.drraj.com