So you’ve stumbled across someone’s Instagram profile, or seen a funny tweet of theirs, and all of a sudden you can’t get them out of your head. You, my friend, have a crush. Now having the crush is one thing, but speaking to them is a whole different ballgame. We know how daunting this can be, but in reality, you just need a good plan.
Firstly, you have to go with your gut and trust your intuition. If there’s a question you want to ask them, or something you want them to know – then tell them! Confidence is always attractive, so let them know that.
The goal of talking to your crush is to get to know them, right? Because yes you think they’re great, but you don’t actually know who they are. That’s something you need to figure out if your crush has any hope of turning into something more. It’s always good to ask the basic questions, but here are some great ones that can spark off an interesting discussion from Miingle that’ll go a little deeper than the surface. This way you can learn more about them than what you would with a simple “what do you do for fun?”, and let your crush know that you really do want to get to know them.
A good old fashioned compliment is a great and simple way to show interest and confidence to your crush. Steer clear of generic lines like “you’re pretty”, and definitely stay away from creepy ones. Keep it specific and thoughtful, for example complimenting their photography skills or outfit choice in their last post. That’s how you get them to pay attention to you, because you’ve taken the time to appreciate something about them that’s unique.
There are so many ways to start a good conversation, but one of the best is by picking the right topic. The best things to talk about are things you’re interested in, and this is for a few reasons. Firstly, you’re way less likely to be nervous and awkward when you’re talking about something you love, and you’ll feel more relaxed too. When you feel at ease, not only will the conversation flow freely, but your crush will have a chance to see your personality. Finding mutual interests is even better, because you’ll both be enthusiastic about the conversation, and actually enjoy it. So maybe even do a little research on social media and try to figure out if you do share any mutual interests, and you may find something to bond you together.
Once the conversation’s started, be an active listener. Notice what they say back, ask questions and show interest! Nothing’s worse than speaking to someone who only wants to talk about themselves, or gives boring, weak replies. If you want the conversation to carry on, then you need to ask questions, keep it going and be curious. And who knows, your crush might just blossom into love!