You don’t have to grow too old to witness at first hand the emotional bumps, bruises and stresses that life can throw at us. Even when we are young children, we can experience psychological distress, loneliness, and illness due to loss and rejection.
Despite this experience all the way through life, however, it’s still something many of us struggle with – and many folks out there aren’t equipped with the right, practical tools to deal with overcoming emotional pain and understanding when – if at all – to try and cure relationship ills.
In today’s post, we’re going to take a look at some practical remedies for some common emotional injuries caused by the many relationship failures we encounter over a lifetime – read on to find out more.
Death, loss and trauma
There is an horrendous finality to the death of a loved one. It can be a shattering experience, get you questioning life as a whole, and can result in your personality and identity changing. Many people experience trauma after the death of a loved one, and anxiety, depression, and stress are all common as a result.
It is essential that you see a doctor if you are feeling traumatized by the event, and also to listen to the concerns of others close to you. It is likely that you aren’t aware of your symptoms, too, such is the nature of the shock and sadness people experience after losing someone they love.
Separation, divorce and relationship failure
Any long-term relationship that ends is going to have a huge impact on your emotional wellbeing – even if you know you are better off without it. You can’t invest so much time in anything in life and expect to come out the other side intact.
If you have tried to revive the marriage but there is no hope, a mediated divorce can help you deal with the legal side of things without too much recrimination – and you should always put the needs of your children first. But splitting up with a long-term partner can seem equally as hard. In both cases, after the event, you might feel angry at yourself, question your self-worth, and become angry at the world in general.
It is essential that you take the right steps forward, and allow yourself to focus on your strengths. Find other people to fill that huge gap, too, whether it’s friends or reconnecting with others you might have seen less of while you were in your relationship. The pain from a breakup might not ever leave, but you can – and will – learn to deal with it.
Betrayal, infidelity, and dishonesty
Nothing can be more heart-breaking to a person than to find out their partner has betrayed or cheated them. But let’s not forget that cheating also describes any kind of personal loss of trust, whether from a close friend, family member, or lover. It can rub your emotions red raw, and, as a result, can lead to difficulties moving on and trusting anyone ever again. The main thing to remember that whenever someone commits the ultimate act of betrayal, it’s not your fault. Even if there is a root problem that you may have a part in, the other party should have been straight up and honest.
Finally, you’ll need to work out whether that particular relationship is over or not, and if you decide to continue things, make sure that you are very clear on the direction you want to take. Communication can save a lot of things, but only if you are both honest.
How do you deal with the emotional pains of faltering relationships? Let us know in the comments section below.