Grief is one emotion that can hit you in many different ways. Grieving the loss of a family member or friend, grieving a future you thought you had. But grief can also hit you when it comes to your relationships, and it can be hard to ignore. Even though there is no physical loss, the feeling is there, and it can be all too consuming. An end to a relationship can be challenging, which is why I thought it would be worth sharing you these tips to help you through the tough time ahead.
Take ownership of your life
When you are consumed with grief of the loss of a relationship, it can be hard to think logically about any situation. The thought of spending time on your own can be a scary prospect, and the future uncertain. But this is the time to take ownership of your life and move forward. One way you can do that is to provide yourself with the tools you need to mentally become a better and more positive person from the situation. Something like the avatar course or even reading a self-help book could help you mentally with your mindset.
Have belief in yourself to move forward
When your confidence has taken a beating, it can be difficult to have self-belief. But just because this relationship broke down, doesn’t mean the future doesn’t hold something better and more positive for you. If someone left you, your self-esteem could have taken a knock, and that’s understandable. Instead of believing that this person was right to leave you, accept that someone will love you for who you are. Focus on your best attributes and personality traits. Spend time with your friends who love you for who you are. Allow yourself time to heal.
Don’t be a self-critic
One person’s opinion won’t be someone else’s. It’s hard to believe but try and not self-critic the relationship and your behavior. Often there is no fault, but a relationship can break down for many reasons.
Take the positives away with you
A great way to move forward it to look back on the relationship and take from it everything you can that is positive. Perhaps this might be experiences you got, such as holidays or events. It might be the person you are today because of what you have been through. You may have managed to get yourself on the property ladder, made friends that you may never have done before. There are always positives to take from any situation.
Make a plan to move forward
Finally, give yourself time to think about what the future holds. Could you relocate or work somewhere new? Maybe move to another country or take up a new hobby? The world hasn’t stopped, and it’s time to get back on the journey of life, with a new perspective and plan for your future. This is when having a positive outlook and thought process can be beneficial.
I hope these tips help you through a relationship breakup.