Interview with Michael Tymn, author of Dead Men Talking: Afterlife Communication From World War I.

August 10th, 2014

Mike 2013 (6)I recently had the chance to interview Michael Tymn about his new book Dead Men Talking: Afterlife Communication From World War I. Below is a copy of our Q&A…

1.  Why did you write Dead Men Talking: Afterlife Communication From World War I?

I didn’t really write it. I am more editor than author of the book. I wrote the Preface, Introduction, and offered some commentary in the five chapters, but the book is essentially an abridged anthology of five different books coming out of World War I. My original plan was to abridge just Raymond or Life and Death, Sir Oliver Lodge’s 1916 best seller about communication with his son, Raymond, who was killed on battlefield in Ypres in Belgium on September 14, 1915. Since the 100th anniversary of Raymond’s death is coming up next year, I proposed to Jon Beecher, my publisher at White Crow Books, that we collaborate on an abridged version of Sir Oliver’s book, which is some 400 pages. Of course, the book is now in the public domain and I thought I would narrow it down to the key messages and make it about half its original size. But Jon said he preferred more than just the Raymond book. Thus, I selected four other books –

Thy Son Liveth: Messages from a Soldier to his Mother

Claude’s Book I and Claude’s Book II

Private Dowding

Rolf’s Life in the Spirit World

 2. Is there a common thread among the five books?

Raymond, Bob, Claude, Thomas, and Rolf were all casualties of the Great War. The first four died on the battlefield, while Rolf died in training camp before he reached the battlefield. Still, he was a victim of the war. All five began communicating from the Other Side after their transitions.   What they had to say is fairly consistent – that there was some confusion initially after their deaths; that they gradually awakened to the reality of it all; that it was nothing like they had expected; that it was not the humdrum heaven or horrific hell that they had heard about; that they were all active; that there were many levels or planes and each person gravitates to the level he has prepared himself for. From where they were, they were continuing to learn and evolve to higher vibrations toward the Godhead. For the most part, however, at least in the higher realms, it is beyond human language.

 3.  What are you hoping people will take away from the book?

Even people who believe in an Afterlife tend to see it as a very boring place – not much more than floating around on clouds and strumming harps while praising God 24/7. Thus, the fear of death is very much present and the repression of that fear by escaping into the unreal world offered to us in the movies, on television, and on the Internet becomes a way of life. As I see it, this escape results in extreme materialism, even hedonism, and is the primary cause of all of the turmoil and chaos in the world today. Once we see death as a transition into a greater reality, the need to escape into the unreal world diminishes. The stories of these five combatants can help people see a more exciting and dynamic Afterlife than that offered to us by orthodox religion, one that we need not fear, unless, of course, we have not properly prepared for it.

 4. Are you implying that there really is a hell?

 The messages suggest that we are not judged either “righteous” or “wicked” as most religions teach. Rather, we judge ourselves and gravitate to the place we have made for ourselves based on what has been called a “moral specific gravity.” It is a matter of degree.   Those who have led negative lives might find themselves “earthbound,” not even realizing they are dead, thereby experiencing a “fire of the mind,” sort of a like a bad dream. That’s hell. However, we are told that it is not eternal and that souls in this condition can pull themselves up and evolve spiritually to higher realms.

 5. How can you not know you are dead?

Do you know that you are “alive” when you are dreaming at night? I think it is the same thing. But a better example might be a good movie. Most people can get caught up in a good movie and forget that it is a movie. They begin to identify with the characters and to experience the emotions of the actors. The emotions may even stay with them for hours after the movie is over. People who get so absorbed with the material life and have no concern for the spiritual are like those who get caught up in the emotion of the movie.   It takes time for them to return to “consciousness” after they have “died.”

 6. Many people say we should be living for the present and not concern ourselves with some far off afterlife. How do you answer them?

When you are young, raising a family, and have an interesting career, that may very well be the case, but, still, the thinking young person might stop and ask what the purpose of it all is. When our kids are on their own and as we leave our jobs behind, we are more inclined to ask what it all means, whether we are all just marching toward extinction. Some might see the purpose as making it a better world for future generations, but if they think too deeply, they begin to ask, “to which generation full fruition?” and “to what end the progeny?”   That Utopia that future generations are headed for begins to sound like the world Nero was experiencing when Rome burned. As pioneering psychologist William James stressed, one cannot effectively live in the moment without some regard for the future.   The more we try to repress the idea of dying and death, the more we escape into that unreal world, the fantasy world.

7. Why did you focus on Afterlife Communication From World War I as opposed to other time periods or even right now?

My other books are more general.   I focused on World War I on this one because the 100th anniversary of the Great War was just ahead as I wrote the book. The war began on July 27, 1914 and ended November 11, 1918.

8.  Do you believe that people communicate with their loved ones after they die?  If so, what are some of the common messages they leave their loved ones?

Yes, that belief is the key message in the book. To begin with, the loved ones are given assurance that the departed are not extinct. Beyond that, many of the messages give some clues as to the very active lifestyles the departed are now experiencing, offering further peace of mind to the loved ones.

9. Why are some people able to communicate with their loved ones after they die and other people are not able to?

I think it is more a matter of people on this side not being open to spirit communication than it is the ability of the discarnates not being able to communicate. If a person doesn’t believe in such spirit communication, as is the case with the majority of people in today’s world – either because they are scientific fundamentalists or religious fundamentalists – he or she is simply not going to hear from those in the spirit world. I suspect that the departed try to get through to them, but the messages are ignored or written off as hallucinations, fantasy, whatever.

10.What sort of reaction have you received from people about your book?

The book hasn’t been out long enough to get any real reaction. I hope the reaction is the same as with my book, “The Afterlife Revealed,” as I have had many people tell me that it is the best book they have read about the Afterlife.

11.  Where can people get a copy of your book?

Amazon.com – both US and UK.

Boyhood movie

August 8th, 2014

I just watched the trailer to a movie that looks like a thought-provoking tale of growing up and the challenges and joys of adolescents…

According to the film’s website..

“Filmed over 12 years with the same cast, Richard Linklater’s BOYHOOD is a groundbreaking story of growing up as seen through the eyes of a child named Mason (a breakthrough performance by Ellar Coltrane), who literally grows up on screen before our eyes. Starring Ethan Hawke and Patricia Arquette as Mason’s parents and newcomer Lorelei Linklater as his sister Samantha, BOYHOOD charts the rocky terrain of childhood like no other film has before. Snapshots of adolescence from road trips and family dinners to birthdays and graduations and all the moments in between become transcendent, set to a soundtrack spanning the years from Coldplay’s Yellow to Arcade Fire’s Deep Blue.

BOYHOOD is both a nostalgic time capsule of the recent past and an ode to growing up and parenting. It’s impossible to watch Mason and his family without thinking about our own journey.”

The Secret is Right in Front of our Noses

August 6th, 2014

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By Jill Mattson

Studies are popping up all over – showing that the language of the body is sound. Invisible sound waves are the body’s secret communication system! Understanding the “Rosetta stone of body language” will unlock untold breakthrough for health.

Science maintains that nerves communicate information to the far reaches of the body through electrical impulses. Thomas Heimburg , a Copenhagen university, biology and physics researcher questions this, “The physical laws of thermodynamics tell us that electrical impulses must produce heat as they travel along the nerve, but experiments find no heat.” We need to rethink standard thinking about inter body communications via the nervous system.

Heimburg proposes that the nerves communicate information, but through sound waves. This controversial idea also explains how anesthesiology works – a mystery that has baffled scientists for years. Anesthetics change the melting point of nerve membranes so that they can’t propagate sound. Nerves are put on “stand by” and can’t report messages that the brain would interpret as pain. Do the nerves communicate pain and other things through sound waves?

John Beaulieu from BioSonics, links nerves and sound in an entirely new way. He believes that the high pitched, electrical ringing in one’s ears (a sound that comes and goes, not like tinnitus) is the sound of nerves communicating. By humming the sound heard in one’s ears, the sound can lesson or stop.

Sharry Edwards from BioAcoustics, believes tiny ear sounds reflect communications within the body, “Our ears create intrinsic sound waves” (scientific fact). Sound goes out the ears like a radio signal, broadcasting to the rest of the body. Is the language of the body numbers (of cycles of sound waves), expressed as frequencies or sounds? This reflects the idea of Plato and Pythagoras who insisted that “all is number” (do they meaning we should count the number of sine waves of sound?). Edwards did this very thing. By observing body sounds Edwards discovered that when waves interact, the addition or subtraction representing wave cancellation or addition is impeccably accurate. In other words the processes that occur in the body (like digesting your food) operate like interacting sound waves. Further these numbers (gotten by counting sound waves) can be correlated to chemicals and biological formulas within the body.

Our incredible and intricate bodies utilize the power of sound for communication and wave interference interactions for body maintenance and operations. Our medical field is learning this wisdom. Now it uses sound for sonograms, tens units and to heal broken bones faster. Sound, is right in front of our noses, yet we have barely scraped the surface of its secrets and mysteries. When we do, a whole new way of thinking will become evident – uplifting and tuning our world.

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Jill Mattson is a prolific Artist, Musician and Author. Jill is a four – time author and widely recognized expert and composer in the field of Sound Healing! She has written four books and produced six CD’s that combine intricate Sound Healing techniques with her original Award winning musical compositions (Deep Wave Beauty CD – Best New Age CD of 2012 – Silver Award). The CD’s consist of intriguing, magical tracks using ancient & modern techniques – with sound energy & special healing frequencies to achieve profound benefits. Also available on the sites are additional free mp3’s of her Sound Healing compositions, including Solfeggio Tones, Star Energy, Flower Frequencies, Fibonnaci and nature tones. Gallery and music at www.jillswingsoflight.com, www.musicforbeauty.com, jillimattson@yahoo.com.

Why women need a different approach to power

August 5th, 2014

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They have experienced stunning break-throughs in their relationships, creativity, prosperity, health, overall happiness, and so much more . . .

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“Since attending ‘The Three Keys To Feminine Power,’ I hardly recognize my life. I am the healthiest I’ve ever been and feel truly beautiful, inside and out. I’m traveling, eating well, exercising, enjoying beauty, being generous toward friends and family, and experiencing a financial abundance I never even imagined before. To top it all off, I’m engaged to a passionate man who is my true match in every sense!”
—Elham S., Geneva, Switzerland

Q&A with Max Corradi, author of Cures without Side Effects

July 28th, 2014

max corradi photo Below is my Q&A with Max Corradi, author of Cures without Side Effects

1. What are your books about?

My books are mainly about complementary and alternative medicine, self help and self healing with a focus on various possible cures without side effects. The information contained in my books are a blend of ancient spiritual and medical knowledge and modern medical knowledge. Nowadays people don’t have time to read and research so much, so my books are a kind summary of the most essential points useful for any individual that wants to become self -reliant in terms of healing and well being.

2. Why did you write them?

A few years ago I had a close friend which was suffering from a very aggressive cancer, while she was doing a whole range of both conventional and complementary therapies she asked me to write down all the advices I was giving her over the phone and that gave me the idea that maybe more people could benefit from such type of knowledge about complementary cures without side effects.While writing the first book many ideas sprang forth for the second book and the same happened while writing the second and so on. I’m now writing my fifth book. Moreover,I strongly believe that people should be made aware of all possible treatments, cures and methods to find inner happiness and awakening.

3. What do you think people will learn from them?

My hope is that people will find their own path to joy, health and fulfilment and my books could serve as a practical guide to that in some way.The information that is contained in my books comes from years of research into holistic healing and ancient spiritual wisdom knowledge distilled through a modern way of thinking and living.

4. What are examples of complementary and alternative medicine and how can they help people?

There are many types of complementary therapies, in fact in my last book ‘Cures without side effects’ I describe some of the most essential and effective methods of healing without side effects according to my knowledge and experience that can be used alongside conventional medicine or as alternatives to conventional medicine according to the specific condition of the individual. These methods include healing using the subconscious mind, Nutraceutical Therapy, Phytotherapy, Spagyric Medicine, Tibetan Medicine, Homeopathy, Homotoxicology, Oligotherapy, Low Dose Medicine and Physiological Regulating Medicine. Each of these healing approaches has its own point of view, theory and application, but they all have in common the fact that they don’t disturb the subtle energy or natural physiology of the individual but help to create the conditions for self healing, which is a natural condition.

5. Why did you get interested in complementary and alternative medicine?cures without side effects front

I have been interested in complementary medicine and self help since I was a teenager. My mother took me to an homeopath at an early age and I always had good results with this type of approach. Then a few years later, after spending time touring the world as a professional musician I developed a few health conditions related to poor quality sleep and bad eating and drinking habits. At that time the doctors wanted to prescribed me all sorts of chemical substances and antidepressant drugs which I refused as they all seemed to have all sorts of of side effects. Then one morning I remembered how homeopathy had worked for me in the past so I decided to start training professionally in that field and learn as much as I could about complementary medicine in general. At the same time I joined a Buddhist meditation group and that opened me the way to spiritual knowledge and research as well.

6. Where can people get a copy of your books?

All my books can be bought directly from amazon in both paperback and kindle version and they can also be ordered and purchased in any local bookshop.
This is the link to my amazon author page: http://www.amazon.com/Max-Corradi/e/B00GXDNOIS/ref=ntt_dp_epwbk_0 where one can find all my published books.

This is the link to my latest book ‘Cures without side effects’.

http://www.amazon.com/Cures-without-side-effects-biotherapy-ebook/dp/B00L6CIWQA/ref=la_B00GXDNOIS_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1406043245&sr=1-2

Q&A with Francine Vale, author of Song of the Heart

July 24th, 2014

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Below is a Q&A with Francine Vale, author of Song of the Heart: Walking the Path of Light.

1. Why did you write SONG OF THE HEART: Walking the Path of Light?

 Prior to my profound experiences with the light as described in my introduction I was filled with a knowing that everything in my life was about to change.  The knowing was insistent and followed me everywhere. That’s why, when I had my golden light vision that showed me the book, I understood that I was to record everything I had learned so far, although I didn’t know why or what purpose it would serve.

2. What are some spiritual practices that you engage in regularly?

 My regular spiritual practices are many.  I meditate every day upon awakening, before retiring and often in between; when preparing for a healing, for an important meeting or social event. I look at my aura every day that I remember to. It is an inspirational activity to see one’s own light. I teach people how to see their own auras as well as the auras of others. I call this seeing one’s own light and seeing the light of others. People are humbled and amazed to recognize that we all shine with a spiritual light and it is a moment of warm friendship. There is a lot to say regarding one’s aura.

Another spiritual practice is to treat others with unfailing kindness regardless of what occurred in the past. I recognize that I don’t have to spend time with people who have hurt me but when we meet I will bring forth love and kindness which may possibly eventually heal whatever it is that may have been misinterpreted between us.  This is another big spiritual teaching. When I read on FB of people who are suffering I immediately send them blessings and surround them with healing frequencies.  Sometimes I leave a comment, other times I do it anonymously. I give everything away without expecting anything in return.  I enjoy living this way. It is a free and light way to live.  When someone asks me for something I enjoy giving more than they asked for.  It is a way of expressing gratitude for the blessings in my life. There are lots of ways to express one’s spiritual self and lots of opportunities present themselves on any given day.

Recently, I have been diagnosed with thyroid cancer.  I haven’t cried for myself for I know I will move past this and emerge well again, but I am moved to tears with every offer of prayer and with every heartfelt response.  Being loved by people you never realized cared so much is the most precious reward for living the spiritual life.

3. Who do you consider your spiritual elders and how have they influenced your writing?

 My spiritual elders are Buddha, Jesus, Hippocrates, the Baal Shem Tov and a long list of other Masters. I haven’t thought about their influence on my writing but to answer the question I will say, to write with Truth, to write with Love, to write with exactitude and with Kindness, to write at the right hand of God of all that I hold most dear including the hardship that taught me what I needed to learn and finally, to express in my writing a transcendent joy for the blessing of being here in physical form.

4. What are some struggles that you have faced when people find out that your perception of the world is derived from your past lives’ experiences?

 The struggles I have encountered were mostly with my husband and a relationship that followed. In my workshops with clients, friends or colleagues I feel absolutely free to discuss spirituality as desired by those present. If a non-believer should comment in an unkind way I allow them to hold their own opinion and do not argue. I point out that spiritual beliefs and concepts do not belong to me. They are ancient and if the person should feel so inspired they can go to various libraries around the city and discover thousands of ancient texts from around the world, rare books kept behind locked glass cabinets written by Masters as well as books available to read on premises. The American Society for Psychical Research on Central Park West is one.

 5. Do you see an increased acceptance of spiritual practices and experiences that outside the Judeo-Christian spectrum?

There most definitely is an increase in acceptance of spirituality that goes beyond religious views.  I have watched the expansion of this awareness through the years and it is a beautiful thing to behold.

 6. In your book SONG OF THE HEART: Walking the Path of Light, you write about “Unity Consciousness.” Can you explain what means?

 Unity Consciousness:  A blending of every unique soul awareness in such a way that through the mind all is accessible.  Every thought that anyone has is immediately available to be picked up by the consciousness of any other soul whose mind is in alignment with such a thought.  In this way, through resonance,  new paradigms are birthed. In this way humanity advances. And in this way humanity can also choose war and conflict. I teach people to learn to discipline their thoughts.  There is a whole lot to say on this subject.  Read Chapter One in Part Two, The Structure of All That Is.

7. Can you speak to the emotional and psychological issues that keep people from expressing their soul’s potential?

 Expressing one’s soul’s potential is the greatest challenge that we face. The soul consciousness knows our full potential, the reason for which we came.  However, we are born into forgetting and further, cultural indoctrination begins from the very first day when our parents begin to fill us up with their sorrows, frustrations and dreams for us. This is referred to as building the ego which is everything put into us that isn’t ours. Once this is understood it can be easily seen that the soul’s purpose has been clouded psychologically and emotionally by ancestral sorrows, regrets, revenge and every hurt our parents and grandparents and even our great-grandparents suffered as retold through family lore.  We are laden with guilt and biases.

How to break through all this heaviness is the gift being bestowed on us at this time by the New Age or as Kabbalah teaches as written in the Zohar, the Orishon, the great enlightenment available now. We have now many paths to find our true authentic selves.  Finding one’s true authentic self is entirely possible at this time. It is one of my prime teachings and healings.  Each one must do the work on their own behalf as I myself have done and continue to do.  As they say, when the student is ready the teacher shall appear.  The teacher comes in many forms.  Through books written for every level of spiritual understanding, through films, through attending meetings, meeting individuals who become your guides on Earth.  When and where and how the process shall begin is a personal decision made through a synergy of heart and mind.

Once a person places their feet on the path of Light, all awareness begins to manifest. Emotional blocks and psychological blocks begin to clear, the fog of illusion begins to lift, and inner wisdom begins to shine through just like the sun after the storm. This is the joy of being here at this time. There can be transient suffering as we uncover layers of buried pain we discover on our path, but also potential for the most profound illumination and healing ever available to humanity.

8. What is your definition of happiness?

 Happiness as defined by material acquisition is fleeting and not to be depended upon.  Identifying one’s soul purpose, setting a course to fulfill that purpose and pursuing it with all one’s heart – this is the way to find true happiness.  Fulfillment is happiness.

9. You talk about grief, loss and human failing in this book. Do you find that difficult moments, or even suffering, help you feel more in tune with the spiritual, or less?

It is possible for humanity to learn through joy just as well as through suffering.  Humanity has chosen to learn through suffering.  After the establishment of a more enlightened human culture, Peace on Earth, humanity shall choose to learn through joy. Until we get there it’s ingrained in the collective consciousness that through suffering we learn our lessons best and so we continue to collectively manifest suffering or allow ourselves to be led toward suffering. The paradigm is shifting.  New shoots are emerging even here in competitive NYC. People are planning and establishing communities based on principles of sharing and mutual concern.  This will lead to learning through peace and joy.

 10. What one area of brokenness in your life is currently bringing forth more and more transformation?

My recent diagnosis of thyroid cancer answers this question. It’s almost a fated thing. I was born with a tumor on my larynx which nearly suffocated me. It was removed as emergency surgery in the middle of the night when I was 4. I was shy in school and although I had lots of questions I rarely spoke up. At home I was eclipsed by my older brilliant brother who excelled in everything and made our parents proud. I married a man who was not inclined to hear me when I spoke and neither were his parents. At 40 I fell down an entire flight of stairs on my back and neck, suffered a concussion and injured the discs directly opposite my thyroid which can be seen on X-ray. Although, as an observer, I knew things the people around me didn’t seem to know and saw into the future, far and near, no one would listen or heed my advice. These elements created energetic blockages in my thyroid. Thyroid cancer has brought me to this moment of profound awareness to learn what I teach and that is to love ourselves. As I work out these issues and learn how to heal them the blockages that caused the cancer will be cleared of some of my deepest life wounds and in so doing will clear the imprint of this illness from  the energy fields of my descendants.  In this way, with awareness, determination and discipline of the mind, we can uplift ourselves and our loved ones.  This then ripples out to uplift all who come into our lives.  Our story changes, our energy becomes more balanced.  This is the future of mankind.SONG OF

11. How does SONG OF HEART: Walking the Path of Light explore soul and spirit?

Discussion of soul and spirit is clear from the intro on throughout the book. It depends on the attitude one brings to the reading.  Song of the Heart, for optimum benefit of spiritual awareness,  should be approached with a desire to discover these insights. If a reader chooses to read superficially with a linear approach these spiritual insights might be glossed over as the story itself can hold a reader’s interest.  In Part 1 I explore  soul and spirit as it is entwined in daily life experience.    Part 2  was intended to be a spiritually focussed work filled with many esoteric experiences and teachings to satisfy any spiritual seeker. These experiences and teachings evolved from the awarenesses described in Part 1.

12. Are you working on any more books?

I am not presently working on any other writing projects.  I do have an unpublished manuscript entitled, “SARA, sara”, the story of a holocaust survivor and her husband, an underground fighter.  I spent a year or more interviewing Sara and Ernest at their business, transcribed the tapes into a large looseleaf notebook and then wrote the book, 120 pages.

When the Nazis marched into her peaceful town in Czechoslovakia Sara, age 11,  was ordered from her home along with her large extended family and all the Jews of the town.  The sole survivor of her family Sara survived concentration camps and all manner of horrors in very bad condition but still alive.

Erno had left his small village home in Hungary where his father was a prominent citizen, to live with relatives in a larger city when war broke out.  He was studying for his Bar Mitzvah at the time.  All the boys of his age as well as older teenagers were conscripted into a dangerous underground training program. Erno was captured and escaped several times. He saved innumerable lives.

Sara and Erno met in a refugee camp in Europe where Erno was a young leader; Sara, a very sick refugee, barely made it through the gates. Through many trials and tribulations they arrived in Israel where Erno was welcomed with honors as a hero. At Sara’s insistence they soon moved to the United States where they went on to live a good successful life.   Except that Sara’s inner turmoil and suffering never abated.

 

How she found her soulmate (a true story)

July 23rd, 2014

af-7wk-10-2013-300x250If you’re not familiar with my friend Arielle Ford, there’s only one thing you really need to know about her . . .

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Keep Your Friends Close, and Your Skeptics Closer

July 17th, 2014

cynthia grapes pictureBy Cynthia Rosi

Spiritual exploration requires a measure of faith: Faith to show up at the group you found out on the Co-op noticeboard, or to go along with a friend to a channeling or open healing meditation. It’s this willingness to learn, to explore, and to grow which lead us to find the books, groups and teachers who nurture our spiritual development.

This phase can feel so tender and precious that we keep it secret, away from the skeptical questions of our family and friends. But there’s value to having a skeptical spouse, sibling or friend. When I was going through a period of trying out new meditation techniques, my best friend told me: “Keep your mind open, but don’t let your brain roll out.” This simple test brought me back to center. Did I have an open mind? Or was I letting go of my critical thinking faculties so much that I was giving away my power?

When I knew I would be going into practice as a spiritual and energy healer, I began to attend every healing workshop, every New Age seminar that I could fit into my schedule and budget in my town of Columbus, Ohio. People asked me why I did that. “Don’t you already know how to heal?” they would say. But I didn’t do it because I needed to learn more techniques. I wanted to observe my industry in action, to see how teachers presented themselves, what rang false, what rang true, and what connected all the healing modalities together.

I remember attending one presentation where the nationally-known speaker had attracted several hundred people to the room. After having us say a litany of positive affirmations, he told us that physics says the chair on the stage needs to be observed in order to stay physical. In other words, when we weren’t looking at it, the chair would disappear. At the end of the presentation, he offered a class for nearly ten thousand dollars on realizing abundance, and he had takers for it. But there were two red flags to be seen here: Magical thinking about the chair (sorry! It still existed even when I turned my back!), and magical thinking that his abundance workshop would make them rich.

Skeptical friends and relatives can be useful barometers who bring critical thinking to a person you’re drawn to, a spiritual group, or a piece of equipment you want to buy. Don’t cut off your skeptical spouse or best friend. Instead, share your growth. If it’s real, they will be able to see real benefits to your situation. If it’s not, they will (and tell them to do this gently!) let you know they think it’s an idea that’s not going to contribute to your well-being. I’ve noticed that I avoid sharing with family members or close friends when I worry I’m going to be ridiculed. It’s important to my spiritual growth to have the conversation anyway, to try out my new understandings and beliefs with a critical thinker. Conflict can be an opportunity to go deeper in a relationship and talk about re-drawing boundaries so that both of you feel safe.

When I wrote my novel The Light Catcher I wanted to show how tender our feelings are during spiritual exploration. So I created a protagonist, Chantal, who was going through a psychic opening while navigating the challenges of a marriage and raising two children. She keeps asking herself “am I going crazy?”, although the clock is ticking closer to disaster for the children next door. Chantal’s challenge is to trust herself, trust her marriage, and bring her skills out into the open.

The Light Catcher is out from Assent in October, 2014. You can read excerpts at www.thelightcatchernovel.com.

I’ll be happy when….

July 11th, 2014

author(6)By Ian Tucker, author of Your Simple Path: Find happiness in every step.

Ian Tucker

Ian Tucker

I’ll be happy when, If only I hadn’t, I feel desperate, I feel insecure, I’m sick with worry, I’m anxious, I’m out of control, I need to manipulate this, I’ll complain, you owe me, I’ll show you, I need more, I need less, you need more, you need less, What about me? I know best, how could you possibly know, now you listen to me, I’ll never be able to, you’ll never be able to, I can’t face it, I don’t want it, I’m desperate for it, you can’t have it, I haven’t got enough, I’ve got too much, I need you, you need me, I don’t want you, why don’t you want me, it’s too hot, it’s too cold, please don’t rain, I haven’t achieved, it’s too late, it’s too early, I need it now, I need to change, you need to change, we need to change, the world needs to change, it’s not fair, that’s not how I planned it, you never smile, you don’t love me, what if I lose, I have to win, what will they think, what if I fail, I have to have it, I don’t want you to have it, what if you die, what if they die, What if I die?

“Letting go.”

The pace and turmoil associated with modern life sweeps us along and lays down markers to how we are measuring up against everyone else. A constant review of perceived achievement or under-achievement. All day, every day. It exhausts us. How can we ever be at peace if our whole life is a competitive race against time and everyone else?

The pressure to conform, to be right, to be happy, to please everyone, to pay the mortgage, to look good, to be popular, for our kids to do better than we ever have, so they can be “happy.”

All the above comes at a cost. It’s called attachment. We have got ourselves into a cycle that suggests that our happiness and inner peace are dependent upon things outside of our control.

We become our job title, the car we drive, how we look, even the illness that killed our father or grandmother.

Every generation comes along and seems ever more reliant on outside influence, looking for other things to make them happy. Material wealth, electronic wizardry, faster, smaller, better, going further. But the irony is that these things take you away from what will truly deliver happiness.

Could you possibly detach yourself from things that others get anxious and worried about?   Release yourself from limiting beliefs that the only outcome can be the one that you want right now?

Can you begin to develop a gentle understanding that the less you attempt to control or manipulate a situation the more you allow a natural order to ease into your life?

Compare your approach to a flowing stream. As the water rolls down it creates a path. If there is a natural obstacle then it gently works its way around it and continues its journey. The energy within the water is always the same. But just like the tree that sheds its leaves, it knows that everything is perfect. Sometimes it’s slow, other times it quickens, but perfect all the same. There is always a way through, and so it arrives clean and pure.

Now imagine a different stream, this time the water is desperate to reach the same desired destination. It stops, attempts to go back, becomes stagnant, smashes against anything in its way, breaks its banks and dissipates. The destination for both streams is exactly the same, which route do you take? hrcover(4)

Whilst there is a passive element to this approach this in no way means that we relinquish our desire to reach a goal, or an end result.

A musician can write or learn a piece but understands that the performance becomes magical when they are able to let go and lose themselves within the music. I’ve heard it said that it’s the space between the notes that makes the difference.

In writing this book, I approach each chapter with an outline, an intent, but have truly come to understand that when I relax, the right words appear on the page at just the right time.

The Tao Te Ching is a Chinese masterpiece that offers us a timeless guide to life. The author Lao Tzu tells us: “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”

Ian Tucker is an inspirational author and speaker who lives in Devon, England. After spending over twenty years in the corporate world he began to look at what really mattered to him in life. He now spends much of his time writing, giving talks and running workshops that encourage us all to develop a simple, caring outlook.

Your Simple Path is published by O Books June 27th 2014

For Wives, CANCER CAN SPELL DIVORCE

July 10th, 2014

2014-06-27-fi-thumbBelow is a Q&A with Fiona Finn author of Raw: One Woman’s Journey Through Love, Loss, and Cancer.

1. Why did you write a tell-all memoir about your split from your husband during your cancer ordeal?

Spousal abandonment during my fight against colon cancer was definitely the catalyst or event that kick-started this memoir. I know firsthand, that the lives of cancer stricken housewives are forever altered by unexpected, sudden, and untimely divorces. Statistically, 21% of women end up separated or divorced within six months after their diagnosis. With this knowledge, I feel driven to raise awareness about the dangers to these ill women when they become distracted by divorce.

2. When your husband left what impact did it have on your treatment?

 Instead of focusing all of my energy on my battle with cancer, I refocused it on trying to save our marriage. Like many other women in similar circumstances I didn’t complete my therapy and had a higher rate of hospitalization. Truly, I didn’t care if I lived or died.

3. How did you turn things around for yourself after your spouse left?

 One therapeutic technique that helped me heal was journal writing. My journal became my friend that was always there by my side to give me comfort as I struggled with the loss of my spouse. This act helped me re-focus on all the ways that coping with abandonment during cancer made me wiser, stronger, and more empathic towards others.

4. You’re very open about your twenty years of dysfunctional, abusive relationships and applying that to writing. Any fears about being so confessional?

At the end of the day, RAW: One Woman’s Journey through Love, Loss, and Cancer was written to help others. This explosive tell-all spans over two decades, two failed marriages, and my journey towards self love. That said I had to be prepared for the possibility of repercussions. But ultimately truth is an absolute defense in a suit for defamation.

5. You give inspirational talks about surviving cancer. Give an example.

 After my recovery, I wanted to make a difference. Cancer can and does affect every part of your life including but not limited to: marital, social, physical, mental, emotional, financial, and spiritual. I have become an advocate for those women abandoned during cancer treatment. If I can inspire others in the form of wise words, either written or spoken from my experience as a survivor then I count myself as blessed.

6. You openly expose your attempt to commit suicide after facing the truth about your marriage. Why?

 To tell the truth, my life was spiraling out of control, one horrific event caused another, and yet another. As with all traumatic events, you can’t see the sun when you’re crying. On top of my crying spells, I was filled with anxiety, desperation, and hopelessness. The sense of betrayal was so huge that it led me to believe the only way to stop the pain was suicide.

7. If you could speak to a woman who is currently feeling the pain and potentially disturbing effects of spousal abandonment during treatment what would you say?

 I want to tell her to BE STRONG and courageous. It really is his loss, and your gain. You are worth so much more than you’ve been shown. Remember that actions speak louder than words. You will survive, and things will get better. You must become your own best friend.

8. How has all of these life events impacted your three children?

 How can I ever forgive myself for not being a better mother to my kids during the last few years? It’s not just losing our place of residence nine times in the last three and a half years but the loss of their innocence. I wasn’t able to shelter our children from the cancer, the loss of our house, cars, business, the bankruptcy, divorce, and poverty. If that wasn’t enough their mother tried to take her life. Currently, they are struggling with letting go of the anger. And yes, there are moments of sadness, but thankfully they found joy again.

9. If you could wave a magic wand and change your past, what would you change about your journey through love, loss, and cancer?

 I would have listened to my mother. She told me a long time ago that I should have kept an emergency savings account for myself and the children. But I believed everything should be shared in a marriage. That was until he took everything, leaving us penniless. Outside of that one change, I’d change nothing. I love who I am and I wouldn’t be me if I hadn’t endured that difficult journey. And the same goes for my children who I love very much.

 10. Your book is titled RAW which spells WAR backwards. Was that title intentional?

 Definitely, every step in writing my memoir was carefully thought through. We are all familiar with the war on cancer but what about the war waging on housewives with cancer? Really, it’s just a simple equation; cancer plus divorce equals desperate housewives.

11. How did you use humor to defuse conflict and painful moments in your memoir?

 It’s natural for me to laugh when I reflect back upon my life. As each chapter builds, the reader will feel the mounting tension. But then I hit them with a little humor, since laughter brings wellness. It’s what bridges the gap between happy and sad days.

 12. You met some of the sanest people while in a ‘psych’ ward. Please elaborate.

After my suicide attempt I was sent to a psychiatric unit for crisis stabilization. Till then, I had only ever heard that you must be insane or crazy in order to be sent to a psych ward. Most patients are admitted on a voluntary basis. Some are dealing with serious mental disorders, such as clinical depression…Others are dealing with their reaction to stressful life events. And honestly, depression doesn’t make you crazy or insane, it makes you human. Raw

13. As you speak out about your experiences do you have any reservations?

 Truthfully, I don’t want to come across painting all men with too wide a brush. The statistics show that 79% of husbands stay by their wives’ side. What I find interesting is the disparity between when wives get cancer, 21% of husbands leave; when husbands get cancer only 3% of wives leave. The entire male population can’t be blamed for the acts of a few. I believe had I had this information when battling cancer, I wouldn’t have felt so blindsided.

14. Why did you choose a common onion as the visual theme throughout your book?

 I love the fact an onion is seen as an ordinary vegetable with no special or distinctive features. I believe there is beauty in the ordinary. Like an onion, my memoir is raw, not refined or candy coated. The bleeding onion is an indicator that in reading this book it may cause one’s eyes to sting or even tear up.