For Wives, CANCER CAN SPELL DIVORCE

July 10th, 2014

2014-06-27-fi-thumbBelow is a Q&A with Fiona Finn author of Raw: One Woman’s Journey Through Love, Loss, and Cancer.

1. Why did you write a tell-all memoir about your split from your husband during your cancer ordeal?

Spousal abandonment during my fight against colon cancer was definitely the catalyst or event that kick-started this memoir. I know firsthand, that the lives of cancer stricken housewives are forever altered by unexpected, sudden, and untimely divorces. Statistically, 21% of women end up separated or divorced within six months after their diagnosis. With this knowledge, I feel driven to raise awareness about the dangers to these ill women when they become distracted by divorce.

2. When your husband left what impact did it have on your treatment?

 Instead of focusing all of my energy on my battle with cancer, I refocused it on trying to save our marriage. Like many other women in similar circumstances I didn’t complete my therapy and had a higher rate of hospitalization. Truly, I didn’t care if I lived or died.

3. How did you turn things around for yourself after your spouse left?

 One therapeutic technique that helped me heal was journal writing. My journal became my friend that was always there by my side to give me comfort as I struggled with the loss of my spouse. This act helped me re-focus on all the ways that coping with abandonment during cancer made me wiser, stronger, and more empathic towards others.

4. You’re very open about your twenty years of dysfunctional, abusive relationships and applying that to writing. Any fears about being so confessional?

At the end of the day, RAW: One Woman’s Journey through Love, Loss, and Cancer was written to help others. This explosive tell-all spans over two decades, two failed marriages, and my journey towards self love. That said I had to be prepared for the possibility of repercussions. But ultimately truth is an absolute defense in a suit for defamation.

5. You give inspirational talks about surviving cancer. Give an example.

 After my recovery, I wanted to make a difference. Cancer can and does affect every part of your life including but not limited to: marital, social, physical, mental, emotional, financial, and spiritual. I have become an advocate for those women abandoned during cancer treatment. If I can inspire others in the form of wise words, either written or spoken from my experience as a survivor then I count myself as blessed.

6. You openly expose your attempt to commit suicide after facing the truth about your marriage. Why?

 To tell the truth, my life was spiraling out of control, one horrific event caused another, and yet another. As with all traumatic events, you can’t see the sun when you’re crying. On top of my crying spells, I was filled with anxiety, desperation, and hopelessness. The sense of betrayal was so huge that it led me to believe the only way to stop the pain was suicide.

7. If you could speak to a woman who is currently feeling the pain and potentially disturbing effects of spousal abandonment during treatment what would you say?

 I want to tell her to BE STRONG and courageous. It really is his loss, and your gain. You are worth so much more than you’ve been shown. Remember that actions speak louder than words. You will survive, and things will get better. You must become your own best friend.

8. How has all of these life events impacted your three children?

 How can I ever forgive myself for not being a better mother to my kids during the last few years? It’s not just losing our place of residence nine times in the last three and a half years but the loss of their innocence. I wasn’t able to shelter our children from the cancer, the loss of our house, cars, business, the bankruptcy, divorce, and poverty. If that wasn’t enough their mother tried to take her life. Currently, they are struggling with letting go of the anger. And yes, there are moments of sadness, but thankfully they found joy again.

9. If you could wave a magic wand and change your past, what would you change about your journey through love, loss, and cancer?

 I would have listened to my mother. She told me a long time ago that I should have kept an emergency savings account for myself and the children. But I believed everything should be shared in a marriage. That was until he took everything, leaving us penniless. Outside of that one change, I’d change nothing. I love who I am and I wouldn’t be me if I hadn’t endured that difficult journey. And the same goes for my children who I love very much.

 10. Your book is titled RAW which spells WAR backwards. Was that title intentional?

 Definitely, every step in writing my memoir was carefully thought through. We are all familiar with the war on cancer but what about the war waging on housewives with cancer? Really, it’s just a simple equation; cancer plus divorce equals desperate housewives.

11. How did you use humor to defuse conflict and painful moments in your memoir?

 It’s natural for me to laugh when I reflect back upon my life. As each chapter builds, the reader will feel the mounting tension. But then I hit them with a little humor, since laughter brings wellness. It’s what bridges the gap between happy and sad days.

 12. You met some of the sanest people while in a ‘psych’ ward. Please elaborate.

After my suicide attempt I was sent to a psychiatric unit for crisis stabilization. Till then, I had only ever heard that you must be insane or crazy in order to be sent to a psych ward. Most patients are admitted on a voluntary basis. Some are dealing with serious mental disorders, such as clinical depression…Others are dealing with their reaction to stressful life events. And honestly, depression doesn’t make you crazy or insane, it makes you human. Raw

13. As you speak out about your experiences do you have any reservations?

 Truthfully, I don’t want to come across painting all men with too wide a brush. The statistics show that 79% of husbands stay by their wives’ side. What I find interesting is the disparity between when wives get cancer, 21% of husbands leave; when husbands get cancer only 3% of wives leave. The entire male population can’t be blamed for the acts of a few. I believe had I had this information when battling cancer, I wouldn’t have felt so blindsided.

14. Why did you choose a common onion as the visual theme throughout your book?

 I love the fact an onion is seen as an ordinary vegetable with no special or distinctive features. I believe there is beauty in the ordinary. Like an onion, my memoir is raw, not refined or candy coated. The bleeding onion is an indicator that in reading this book it may cause one’s eyes to sting or even tear up.

The Whispers of Water

July 9th, 2014

bookBy Maji Flow

It is important to realize that forgiving people for doing wrong toward you frees you from captivity. It allows your mind, heart, and soul to be released from their power. The moment you decide to hold a grudge in retaliation to someone is the exact moment you agree to give him or her control over your emotions. Leave them powerless and let your being fly free.

-When you allow the Holy Spirit to consume you, your thoughts and heart become pure. Your habits change. The way you walk and talk are altered and upright. From the utterance of your mouth flow overwhelming waters of righteousness. The water quenches your spirit and builds the strength and assertiveness needed to fight through life’s tribulations.

-The lover of money worships the things of the world, and whoever feeds off of greed starves their soul. Worldly things possess mind control over the weak and shallow, convincing and drawing illusions that material things will bring permanent satisfaction and replace empty voids of life. The reality is whatever our hands touch will not last! Greed will strip you of the true fulfillment of life. Sit back and realize that the things we really need in order to be truly happy, money cannot buy.

-Every day you can strive to live on purpose. Live in abundance and make the best out of every circumstance.

-Crying over spoiled milk never changes the state of the milk, but it does change you. Do not let the things that you cannot change affect you. Nor should you have complaints without having solutions. Be proactive with strong determination, and then your focus will shift to being concerned less about when milk spoils and more focused on owning the cow.

-Do not waste time in life trying to please other people and worrying about what someone else wants you to be. People will try to mold and control you into being either a mimic of them or pressure you to achieve the dreams they failed at. No matter what people expect you to be, your destiny is designed exclusively for you! Follow your own heart and ambition! Do not become a carbon copy, but rely on your faith to lead the way to your blueprint instead.

-Whenever chaos comes to visit your life, sit still and listen…listen to the atmosphere…listen to what your spirit has to say. Clear your mind and praise God for the things you cannot see. Praise Him for the victory in advance, because the enemy only brings dark shadows when he knows a blessing is in store for you. Chaos will never defeat the power of praise!author

About The Author

Maji Flow’s mission is to help people hydrate their spirit with relative words and motivation. Writing is her prophecy, and she feels that it is time to share it with the world. Her plans for writing include poetry, devotionals, children’s books, and revealing her truth through an autobiography. To learn more about the author, or further inforamtion on how to purchase her latest book “The Whispers of Water” visit: http://www.authormajiflow.org, https://www.facebook.com/authorofmajiflow, or find it on Amazon by clicking here.

First steps into Divine Consciousness

July 8th, 2014

jesus-hdBy Jeanne Jess

For many, human consciousness is based on the ideas of lack, diseases, limitations, guilt and suffering. For others, it is based on the idea that life is hard, that they do not deserve salvation and that there is struggle to endure. Generations before us often also believed that there is a God who would punish sinners. Depending on the cultures we grow up, we learned this from our grandparents. And so, different fears were played out.

Truth is, there are certain spiritual and universal Laws for all humans. But it is more based on the idea that what one is sending out, will come back. Also known as “You will reap what you sowed… ” – and we can agree that it is somehow fair.

Since a few years now, there is an awakening going on for many, all around the world. People start to realize that they are more than just that “human body”, that there is a lot more beyond the limitations they were taught. They discover that there are other potentials and possibilities, new ways of living, new ways of being.

What people now discover is that they are not a human being who has a Soul. They discover now more and more that they ARE that Soul – and that as that Soul, they are having a physical body. They start to realize that they are Divine Beings, living in a physical body. They see: they are spiritual Beings – having a physical experience on planet Earth.

And together with this comes the first step into their Divine Consciousness. Of course, there is sometimes a kind of a resistance from the intellect and the ego, to that new idea. Because it has to let go of the old way of identification with the different roles it used to play out. But soon it will discover the beauty and the power that lays within that new consciousness: the idea of being Divine – and with this, being eternal.

What does it mean, how does it feel for you when you say to yourself ” I AM eternal.” ?

Yes, you were living somewhere else before this lifetime in this body. And you will go to new places after this lifetime in this body. The idea of reincarnation is well-known in many different cultures all around the world. And with it together, the idea of a so-called karma.

When this idea of “being Divine” or “being eternal” is still a little new to you – give yourself time to meditate with it, to feel into it. Do not go there with your intellect, because the intellect can not show you this path. Divine Truth can only be discovered from an open heart.

At the beginning, a time of adaptation to that new consciousness is needed. Nobody can jump from the old limited human consciousness into the new consciousness within one single day. It will take a lot more time. It is a step-by-step discovery that is very unique to every single person, depending on their own Higher Divine Self.

One of the main reasons why all this takes time is that the physical body also needs time to adapt to that new, higher vibration from the Divine Self. The moment we start stepping into that new consciousness, is also the moment we start to be aware of our Higher Divine Self. This merging of the human and the Divine Self truly needs time and patience. If we are open, we discover a little bit more with every new day.

When one starts asking the question during meditation: “Who am I… ?” or maybe asks something like: ” Dear God, show me what I need to know.. ” — Divinity is going to start answering gently. And with time, during these daily meditations, more and more of the Divine consciousness is going to merge with the human being. Of course, at the same time, certain things in the daily life experiences are also going to change.

Discovering our own Divine Self is a very sacred and beautiful process. After we have been through an inner cleaning process, our body is able to accept and handle more and more of that Divine Light. And we become more and more aware of our own Divine Self. And together with that, we develop more and more compassion – not only for others, but also for ourselves. We also find a new understanding of what Love truly is.

With time, we also find that it is not only a discovering of something new, but that the whole process is more one of “remembering” of who we truly are. We start to remember God, the Divine Source. We start to remember that we are all brothers and sisters from the one and same Divine Source. And with this, we let go of the different ideas of separation. And the more we can remember, the more we feel love….

And that’s why the daily practice of meditation is no longer like a duty, but more a beautiful and sacred moment of healing, of experiencing love and light – and we find there, with our own Divine Self, all we have been looking and longing for in the past.

When we consciously set the intent and invite our Divine Self, our Soul, more into ourselves, our world, our life, we will experience beautiful changes and healing. It is truly a reconnection with God, a feeling of coming home, a reunion with what we were longing and looking during many lifetimes. It is almost not possible to find the right words to explain and describe the feeling of bliss we find. At the same time, the whole experience of awakening is so very unique to each one. It is like a finding of the source of water, after having been lost in a desert for years.

Yes, it can take a few years before one gets there. Years of daily meditations, prayers and training. But do not let the impatience frustrate you. Every single day is precious on this path. Everybody first has to clean from within, because layer after layer of old emotions and illusions have to been cleaned out first. The ego has to let go, the mind has to surrender to God. And the distractions of the outer world has to been layed aside. Similar to what the monks do in the holy temples. The heart has to be truly honest and cleaned.

The Divine Source cannot be fooled or cheated. There is no short-cut, no room for ego-games, and nobody can buy this with money. Ever single person has to do this work alone. Yes, others can serve you as guides, can help, can give you inspiration and insights. But then, we have to do the work ourselves. Soon, your Higher Divine Self becomes your guide, your healer, your eternal source of Love. With this, you will understand what the Teachers said when they wrote: ” The answers were always within you… . ”

With time, we learn to listen within. It is not a listening with the ears, it is a listening with the heart…

Divine Blessings to You,

Jeanne Jess

(( p.s.: My English grammar is not perfect: because my mother tongue is German, second language French, third language English. Thank you for understanding. ))

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Ganesha, the elephant-headed Remover of Obstacles

July 3rd, 2014

jhp53454b2546c60By David Dillard-Wright

There are many stories of the birth of Lord Ganesh in the Puranas, which are supplementary texts to the Vedas, but they all agree that Ganesh is the deity to be propitiated first, the God of new beginnings. It is customary in India and throughout the world—wherever followers of the Sanatana Dharma can be found—to worship the Remover of Obstacles before any new undertaking, whether before getting married, starting a business, or simply heading out of the house for the day. The Romans had a similar tradition in the two-headed deity, Janus, the God of the threshold. The Romans placed an image of Janus over doorways, and they said prayers to Janus at the beginning of the day and at any important transition in life. Ganesh plays the same role, but, unlike the case of Janus, his cult still lives in the hearts of over a billion devotees. Some of the world’s wealthiest people and the world’s poorest people have a shrine tucked away in an honored place: they all hope for spiritual and material comfort, for the light of true wisdom in a dark world. I know that they find it, when they worship with sincerity and faith.

Some iconography and mythic traditions associate Ganesh with his two “wives”, riddhi (prosperity) and siddhi (spiritual power or attainment). Many devotees pray to Ganesh or Lakshmi with the straightforward intention of gaining material wealth.

This might come across as obscene or shallow at first glance, but several factors should be kept in mind. First, it should be said that those who pray for material rewards because they really need them have every right to do so: no one would begrudge a poor person for praying for food or safe lodging. Next, even those who are already well-heeled and yet still pray for material gain may experience a transformation by turning to Lord Ganesh.

Worship makes the devotee more cognizant of the wealth all around us: the beauty of the natural world, the joys of family and home, the privilege of honorable work, and the presence of realized teachers among us. The desire for wealth becomes a pathway to the divine, a way for God to speak to human beings.

Hinduism teaches that nothing good can come of suppressing desire, for we all get to union with God eventually. The same might be said of the desire for siddhis, supernatural powers. As a child and into adulthood, I was fascinated with ESP, astral projection, and other paranormal topics, and this interest eventually led to more traditional Christian and Hindu devotional practices. Someone may come to Lord Ganesha’s feet hoping to gain some supernatural ability: whether they find it or not will not matter in the end, because Lord Ganesha’s loving presence will be enough.

The fact remains that no one comes to spiritual practices with completely pure intentions—that comes after the fact and not before. Like someone piloting a hot air balloon, the spiritual aspirant (sadhak) tosses off the sand bags one by one, until only silence remains. The “sand bags” in this case are the errant thoughts that constantly trouble the mind: the infinite worries that inevitably arise in material life. Roughly speaking, the difference between Hindu devotional practices and other traditions like Zen Buddhism and philosophical Taoism is that Hindus believe that they can enter into the more perfect meditation of the gurus and the devas. Puja establishes a link between the gross, subtle, and spiritual worlds, so that the devotee benefits from the greater peace and tranquility of those who have gone before. Human beings and gods differ not in kind, but in the degree of attainment, and human beings can become divine with sufficient practice. Paraphrasing a prayer to Shiva in the more ancient form of Rudra, the Rudrashtadhyayi, the deities help to cast off a sluggish state of mind and attain greater degrees of spiritual perfection. Most iconography of the gods includes weapons: in Ganesha’s case often an axe, which provokes this warrior-like mentality. Every ounce of effort must be summoned in the fight against negative states of mind like anger, resentment, sadness, jealousy, and greed.

David Dillard-Wright teaches philosophy and religion at the University of South Carolina, Aiken. He received his Master of Divinity from Emory University in 2002 and his Ph.D. in philosophy from Drew University in 2007. David’s academic research focuses on animal ethics, environmental ethics, and philosophy of mind. After a long spiritual journey, David took initiation into yoga in 2012 under the guidance of his gurus, Swami Satyananda Saraswati and Shree Maa of Kamakhya.

David Dillard-Wright delivers a direct path to spiritual illumination through a series of aphorisms gained through meditation on beloved Ganesha, the elephant-headed Remover of Obstacles. Readers will learn how to cultivate Self-Realization, create positive work spaces, and avoid the pitfalls of the religious life. Practical guides to daily sadhana are included, along with vignettes from the author’s life.

At Ganapati’s Feet, published by Mantra Books, August 2014. ISBN: 978-1-78099-099-6 (Paperback) £9.99 $14.95 and EISBN: 978-1-78099-100-9 (eBook) £6.99 $9.99.

Interview with Matthew Douglas: Speaker & Published Author for Rainbow Walker Books

July 1st, 2014

UntitledInterview with Matthew Douglas: Speaker, Channel & Published Author for Rainbow Walker Books

1.  When did you first discover you could channel?    

I first learned I could channel back in 2003. My best friend and now business partner Rae asked me to go with her to advanced psychic development classes to make sense of spiritual experiences she had been and continued to go through at the time. Early on in the classes, the topic of channeling came up and we all began to go into a deep meditation to see where we were in the process. I began to channel right away. It turned out I was a natural channel and I was surprised and blown away to discover this gift and side of myself.

2. What type of beings or who do you channel?

I channel a group of spiritual advisers who call themselves Rainbow Walker. Rainbow Walker is comprised of four main entities. Zac (my spirit guide), Seth (Rae’s spirit guide who also worked with Jane Roberts back in the 1970’s), Yogi (an ancient ascended master) and Joy (an angel who raises the vibration). They speak and come through as one and typically only speak individually when necessary or specifically asked.

3. Do they tell you your future or what kind of advice do you receive for your own personal path?    

Rainbow Walker brings through insightful, beautifully inspiring and powerful information that always seem to go with what I am going through at the time. Through Rae, I ask questions and gain clarity and a new perspective on what is happening in my life at the current moment with the goal of guiding me to the next step on my journey. Their philosophy about informing us on our future is if we don’t take the step today then it won’t matter what is happening 20 steps down the path; we will never get there. They out of love always tell me what I need to hear, not always what I want to hear in a disarming way that allows me to be open to the message. It is all about the journey and taking the current step. They thoughtfully and lovingly advise me on how to see the world and my life differently; to create the positive changes I want to see in both by looking within for guidance, love, acceptance and truth. However as always it is my choice to listen or act on.

4. What is your purpose and passion in life?

I am passionate about spreading Rainbow Walker’s inspirational work and enjoy helping others find their true path by looking within.  

5. Can you tell me about www.RainbowWalkerBooks.com and what type of information people will find on your site?

Rae, and Vicki (Rae’s sister), and I decided for create Rainbow Walker Books to help get Rainbow Walker’s message out to those seeking spiritual insight and guidance.

One will find regularly posted videos, articles, books, events where I am channeling live or via teleconferences, and opportunities for private sessions. The Rainbow Walker material supports one’s journey to truth, happiness, love, peace and enlightenment. Our sole purpose is to help those seeking this type of information to move forward in their quest for self-discovery.

6. There are six Rainbow Walker books on your site. How has this guidance helped you in your life?

Through the books by Rainbow Walker (Meaning of Life, Perspective, A Life Beyond Found Within, If You Could See What We See, Living In the Now and The Beginning) I have gained clarity and different perspectives on my past and am better able to let go not only the past negative experiences but work through and let go negative experiences that continue to come into my path so they don’t begin to hold me back too. The books have really helped me to see different sides of myself. Also see how the past has held me back from creating a prosperous future. By choosing to hold onto the past and not see I have the power to create my reality and how my choices and thoughts play a big role in doing just that. It is really me that was holding myself back. The books have helped me to stop judging others and myself. By seeing through the eyes of love and forgiveness the whole world looks different. I have also learned that the point or meaning of my life is different than it might be for someone else and that’s ok. We are all different and nobody is perfect but rather perfect and beautiful imperfection. By reading the books and doing the work, I have built such a strong connection to the Source (God) and know that we are all loved unconditionally and accepted without judgment. This priceless information has freed me to be myself and by doing so inspire others to do the same.

7. Is there is any advice that you have learned while walking your own path that you would like to share with our readers? Untitled2

Be yourself even if the world says you are worthless or not good enough and don’t compromise who you are. Know that the Source (God) Thinks and knows better and wants the best for you. When you make “mistakes” in your life, look at what you learned and not that you failed or didn’t achieve something. Success is only obtained through your failures. Your experiences are teaching and imprinting knowledge on each of you. Put that knowledge to use in your life and make this world better. Each day strive to be the best expression of you by following your heart and looking within. You just might surprise yourself how powerful and beautiful you really are.

You are love, you are light, you are the power beyond and it is found within. ~ Rainbow Walker.

Journey On,

Matthew Douglas

 

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Self Realization Fellowship: Have a Little Faith

June 26th, 2014

Watch Zach Anner from SoulPancake meet with Martin from the Self-Realization Fellowship and experience a typical Sunday at their beautiful and surprisingly peaceful grounds right in the heart of Hollywood. SoulPancake’s series ‘Have a Little Faith’ opens the door for many who don’t necessarily have faith. In this video, SoulPancake’s Zach Anner learns about a number of different faiths and this week he educated himself on Self-Realization Fellowship (SRF).

Self-Realization Fellowship is a worldwide spiritual organization founded by Paramahansa Yogananda. It is primarily dedicated to carrying on scriptural and humanitarian work where they seek to foster a spirit of greater understanding and goodwill among diverse people. They want to express more fully in their lives the beauty, nobility and divinity of the human spirit.

Spiritual Warriors movie review & Jsu Garcia Interview

June 21st, 2014

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Spiritual Warriors takes a courageous look at all aspects of our Spirit by showing the internal and external struggles of a troubled actor, Finn (Jsu Garcia) trying to make it in Hollywood. Throughout the movie Finn meets with an elderly man, Roger (Robert Easton), who helps Finn learn how to awaken to the insights of his soul.

From a cinematography perspective, this is no easy task. But, the filmmakers boldly use stunning visuals and exquisite special effects to demonstrate such ideas as the transcendence of the soul, past lives, destiny, light versus darkness, and spiritual awakening. Using words to accurately describe these concepts is difficult enough. However, the movie successfully uses remarkable images to capture the essence behind these deeper realities. Additionally, since the film primarily takes place in Los Angeles, there is enough subtle humor and contemporary examples of everyday life to provide a fun, exciting and relatable context to examine some of life’s most important questions.

The cinematography provokes the viewer to ask their own questions as opposed to the dialogue simply giving answers. For example, the movie asks what role darkness and evil play in our own spiritual quest. What impact do our past lives have on our current relationships and circumstances? How much of our destiny is predetermined?

My favorite message from the movie is that when we begin to view life from the perspective of our soul, our life and eventually our destiny take on a much more fulfilling meaning. This is echoed in the beginning scene, when the following quote is flashed on the screen,

“Spiritual Warriors are people who confidently make choices about where to focus their internal attention, even when the external realities of their everyday lives are chaotic, troublesome or just plain annoying.”

You can purchase Spiritual Warriors on Amazon by Clicking Here.

I had a chance to interview the filmmaker and star of Spiritual Warriors about the challenging and rewarding aspects of making the film. You can listen to that interview on Spiritual Media Blog’s iTunes podcast by visiting:

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/interview-jsu-garcia-producer/id308845604?i=55905371

In the interview, Jsu talks about:

- Where the idea for Spiritual Warriors came from

- What he has learned about himself throughout his participation with the film

- A big fight he had with the director while shooting in a desert in Jordan

- Advice for writers, actors and producers on how to make movies with spiritual messages.

Interview with Rick Bognar, author of Wrestling with Consciousness

June 20th, 2014
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Rick Bognar is the author of “Wrestling with Consciousness,” a book contrasting and comparing the inside world of pro wrestling that he spent 10 years in to a spiritual awakening that he has been experiencing for the last 10 years. I had the pleasure of interviewing Rick about his experience as a professional wrestler, insights on how we can live a more meaningful and compassionate life style, and what prompted him to seek out a deeper spiritual path. You can read our interview by looking at transcript below or download an MP3 of it for free on Spiritual Media Blog’s iTunes Podcast by visiting:

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/interview-with-rick-bognar/id308845604?i=83134413

For more information on Rick and his book “Wrestling with Consciousness,”please visit his web site at http://www.razorricktitan.com

Matt: What is your book about?

Rick: An uplifting autobiographical story of a pro-wrestler forced to leave behind the only life I knew and adapt to “normal” life after the “Game”. This was achieved through the practice of Buddhism and other spiritual practice. Follow me on a liberating journey of compassion, finding self-love and love for others after walking a deep dark path. Much of my story is based on the emotional suffering as an athlete and entertainer and how I achieved a graceful transition after the fame and fortune had disappeared.

Matt: What is the message of your book?

Rick: How we, as humans, can move away from the dark side of life and spot the light at the end of the tunnel while still in despair. I suggest tools to use, which have assisted me with my mental strength and resolve as I attempted to climb my own “Inner Mountain™.” These tools will help my readers let go of old habits and thought patterns then rewire those thoughts through focusing on aspirations of who and how they want to be, setting very personal goals and working happily towards them.

Matt: What was it like being a professional wrestler who was also interested in spirituality?

Rick: At the time of wrestling, I blocked it. I felt that life could and should be different but my current life situation and environment at that time would not allow for it. I had to “play the role” in order to be a success. I let my family down and in turn myself by pushing to be a tough, uncaring stereotype. It was considered a sign of weakness to be caring and compassionate in the industry. I learned to be passive aggressive and not show my feelings, never opening up and never trusting anyone. I engulfed myself in solitude.

I had sensed there was a higher path and felt a gut pull toward reaching for deeper meaning but the competitive, superficial environment I was immersed in sidetracked me. I always had a natural gravitation towards compassion and peace in life but at this point, it was just a feeling I had not put into practice yet.

Matt: Did you find it difficult to move from a life of ego, aggression and being ‘things’ and task oriented to one of egolessness, compassion and deeper-meaning oriented as a professional wrestler?  How were you able to do that?

Rick: Yes, it was a slow process. Coming from a way of life where my value as a human being was judged by how physically powerful, aggressive and dominating I was, how many fans I drew or how much I made for others. I became an Automatron. I also became a nervous wreck. I knew I was only as good as my last match and this was my value as a human being. “What have you done for me lately?” made me strive to be bigger, better and more innovative than other competitors in the spotlight. I became very, very proud of being a top guy. A lot of Ego went along with that. I would look at myself at one point at 29 years of age and say “Is this really all there is to life? There’s got to be more.” Suddenly, my mind opened up to the possibility of the opposite. If all of this Ego stroking was making me miserable, then wouldn’t the opposite make me happy? It was something I knew but didn’t know why. I did not yet know how to practice it due to the mental gripping of “I am so important” and “People treat me like a King.” This was my daily thought routine which would steer me away from dropping Ego.

Compassion came when I realized how such a huge sense of self-inflated importance hurt others as well as myself. Currently, I know a millionaire who is deluded of the same affliction. Without money, without muscles, without being on TV would you or others think you were so important? No. No one would listen to you unless you cared about others.

During my last year of wrestling, I learned to get past myself and show interest in others. I read philosophy by Plato and The Book of Buddha afterwards and made it a practice to be interested in and show empathy toward others. This is hard to do when I was in the spotlight. It was always all about me. Not others. Age and maturity have helped progress the journey! I have also learned that getting angry is just a self-centred weapon of control. Most times it only hurts the person serving up the poison. We harbour anger within. It poisons only us. Others do not feel it. If we lash out, we time-release a toxin that eats us alive. We wallow in it for a long time. Guilt, self blame and regret follows. Damage control and endless apologies are the external side.

Matt:  How do you balance letting go of aggression, ego and being ‘things and task oriented’ with still following your passions and trying to achieve your goals, especially as a professional wrestler?

Rick: It is very hard to get a sense of letting go, while being pressured by the promoters and the fans to always out do myself. Both of these people fully expect a new improved caliber of workmanship each time I would perform. Being involved in Professional wrestling is an extremely tense and intense lifestyle. I did not have much time to relax because I was always “On” and when I did, I could not relax. I came to the conclusion “I need to get out of this business to be who I want to be.” I have seen my Yogachariya friend get pushed for quotas before and noticed how peacefully, step by step he handled these situations. I have learned how to step back but still take action in a detached manner which seems to work.

Passion is good, but anything to excess becomes unhealthy. One could become a workaholic or a sex addict for example. If passionately in love or passionately angry both are just one step across a very thin line. They are the opposite but yet so close.

Matt: How were you able to let go of your aggression and ego and still maintain the focus needed to be a professional wrestler?

Rick: It was very hard to stop wrestling and get out of that toxic environment. For every step forward, it became two steps backward.

Matt: What sparked you to try to find a more spiritual path or deeper meaning in life?

Rick: I had a deep yearning to escape the emotional suffering of loneliness, my fragile Ego and my strong ignorance. Buddhism had the right answers to my questions at the time. I felt I was on the right path and continued on it.

Matt: What advice do you have for other people who are aggressive, but would like to live a more compassionate life style?

Rick: First, practice awareness. Be aware of your inappropriate or hurtful anger. Be honest with yourself. This can be hard. Old patterns are hard to change. Pay attention to your gut. If it feels bad, it usually is bad.

Find the antidote. Try to turn negativity into something positive whether it be about a person or situation. For example, take a traffic jam. Instead of being angry and upset think of it as possibly saving you $160 on a speeding ticket!

Search, study, learn and practice. If you want to learn math, study math. If you want to learn compassion, study Jesus, Buddha, Mother Theresa, and the Dalai Lama.

Matt: How can we maintain our spiritual practice while in environments that don’t lend to keeping our emotional fitness?

Rick: My teacher had taught me years ago that spiritual practice isn’t going into a cave in the mountains, becoming a Hermit and meditating for the rest of our life until we reach enlightenment.

Spiritual Practice is using the tools we’ve learned in challenging life situations with our children, family and jobs to maintain a sense of compassion and love no matter what the exterior circumstances are. That is what it is all about. Bringing our meditation and lessons with us and maintaining our integrity wherever we go.

I was challenged recently to start training an old wrestling student again as a favour. I found myself then getting caught up in old patterns. Ego and aggression stepped in a bit and I had to step into being the ‘Observer’ and practice discrimination with myself. “Is this who I want to be, or how I want to represent myself now?” I asked myself. The answer was a resounding “No!” and I went in next time as the ‘Witness’ to myself and came out in the same state of mind after the training that I had went in with!I even used that state *during* teaching! It made for a much deeper experience in class.

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Heed that Hunch: 5 Ways to Heighten Your Sixth Sense

June 18th, 2014

imagesBy Vincent Crews

Did you see the ending of M. Night Shyamalan’s ‘Sixth Sense’ coming?  If not, maybe you’re not clairvoyant, or perhaps you haven’t honed your own sixth sense.  Palm readers, psychics, seers and other types of ‘extrasensory’ personalities champion the use of the sixth sense while others deny its existence.

Whether ‘special’ powers are an actuality remains debatable.  However, like skateboarders learning advanced tricks or scientists inventing faster and more effective machines, progression does exist, and in some cases, some personalities choose to build respective talents.  Clairvoyants attempt to convince the world they hold no ‘special’ powers.  They simply point attention to the fact they’re interested enough to hone the talent.  Here are five ways to do it yourself.

Numbers

A Tel Aviv University study focused on peoples’ abilities to assume number summations.  After some time, with doctors not providing enough time to make an actual calculation, subjects began relying on guessing and intuition. Doctors observed gravitation toward correct calculations the longer subjects guessed, making an interesting observation related to intuition.  It seems the longer subjects used it, the better it became in emulating actual data.

Weight

Go back one-hundred years and you will not find as many traces of ‘weight fad’ products.  It’s a ‘modern’ concern, making millions of dollars for associated producers.  Many fads fall flat because each body is unique.  Rather than listening to get-rich-quick personalities, many report success losing fat, gaining muscle, and feeling well by paying attention to their bodies –when hungry, tired, energised. Bruce Lee, heralded as an alternative nutrition ‘genius,’ directed attention to the focus on how the body ‘feels.’

Dreams

Freud thought dreams were in part the brain’s way of getting rid of ‘excess’ from the day’s observations.  Others, such as Jung, thought there was more to dreams, paying great attention to dream aspects in his psychological studies. Write down colours, places, and things, and whether dreaming in ‘first person’ or seeing overhead as an omniscient ‘author’ of the dream.  Considering parts of dreams are symbols for feelings, anxieties, physical opportunities, etc, helps some make better and more peaceful life decisions.

Gut

Sometimes, we ‘feel’ awkward, afraid, or ‘on alert.’  Usually, these feelings are associated with danger, yet, fear is a powerful emotion.  Perhaps it’s the presence of strong emotion that makes intuition so clear.  Aside from ‘hunches,’ there have been stories of motherly intuition, perceptive moms knowing when to keep children away from danger.  Considering just about every type of animal found in the wild does the same (and needs to do the same), ‘motherly intuition’ does not seem so ‘extra’ sensory at all. Be mindful of gut feelings about places, people, situations, etc, but remember to embrace the feeling rather than reserving it for ‘emergencies’ only.  Keep a journal of gut feelings and trains of thought.

Focus

Considering you may have a Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram account, not to mention school, work, relationships, family and pet obligations too, you probably are pressed for time and focus. It’s not your fault.  The world keeps spinning but our heads don’t have to follow along.  Take the time to learn how to focus, whether it means stopping for a minute to count to ten throughout the day or learning how to meditate via breathing exercises.
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Vincent Crews has done extensive research in the powers of the mind. He greatly enjoys blogging about ways to use one’s mind to improve one’s environment and everyday life.

Do You Love Yourself

June 17th, 2014

shutterstock_102817613.downloadLoving oneself is always something which many people tend to ignore or take for granted. Being at peace with your inner self, focusing on what you like to do, working on your strengths and overcoming the fear of your weaknesses is always a positive trend towards loving yourself.

Basically, you need to do self-evaluation to ascertain the true personality and developing positive mind about yourself. Many times people get to ignore the reality at hand and end up failing themselves which in turn reflects negatively on their lives.

To love yourself is to embrace all your weaknesses and strengths and to work towards self-improvement. So do you love yourself? This is a question which ideally seems oblivious, but it carries a heavy magnitude and deserves a lot of attention. Whether your answer is yes or no here is a look at some of thethings which you should work on to realize love towards yourself;

Be real; some of the mistakes people make in life is trying to impersonate others life. As a result, you end up going through different phases of life as you strive to be another person and not you. It is highly advisable that you always try to keep it real. Be the real you, don’t make something out of yourself which not a part of you. This can be promoted by establishing real values which when cultivated will promote self-esteem and eventually make you a better person.

Embrace change; don’t be hard on yourself. Embracing change means working towards the realization of set goals which in turn will enable you progress positively in life. Ifyoutry something outanditfails don’t feel down as this will only derail your inner strength. Stand out and keep always trying to embrace change because you never know what tomorrow holds for you. Change is always opposed and resisted but knowing that failure isn’t permanent then chances are you will succeed next time you try.

Strengths and weaknesses; do a self-test and assess yourself. Knowing your strengths and weakness gives a platform to know how far you can stretch your possibilities. Again, this will help in working on your shortcomings and overcoming the fear of failing. Your strength work as the backbone to foster your goals in life and motivate you towards achieving the goals you have.

Befriend yourself; it sounds sarcastic, but yes some people are enemies of their own. Always try to befriend yourself. Knowing tha tyou are at peace with yourself gives you an upper edge to love your inner being. No matter what comes your way you stand the best chance to overcome it and find a way out at all times.

Neglect and rejection; to be neglected and rejected is something which has become common, so understanding what you are likely to face out there is a plus for you in every situation. If rejected at any given place always cultivate a positive attitudeand try to be friend with yourself. Remember that not everyone will be thereforyou to hold you in every step of life, so be positive and move on.

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Author Bio:

Ruth Anoya is a passionate blogger, living in UK. She writes on behalf of Turkey Visa. She loves to write as a guest blogger with interest in Travel, Health and Automotive. You can contact Ruth on ruthanoyawriter@gmail.com.